Internet privacy

[Doofy]

I think this is an interesting concept.

If I send Kris an email or pm saying Ross has a two inch dinkie, do I have the right to be upset if she passes that info on?

Does it matter who she passes it on to? How she uses the information?

If Kris told Ross I said this, would that be wrong? Since I know Kris is friends with Ross, do I still have the right to confidentiality?

My opinion is that if you play the game of malicious gossip, whether its through private boards, phone calls, email, you have no one to blame but yourself if it comes around and bites you on the ass.

Now if I emailed Kris asking her advice on how to get rid of a wine stain on my favourite dress, and she went and broadcast that I like to wear dresses all over the internet. Would I have the right to be upset?

I think I would have the right to be dissapointed, but thats about it.

I read somewhere that the only way two people can keep something secret, is if one of them is dead.

I think if your being realistic, you know that if its written somewhere on the internet, its part of the public domain.

[Kandi]

Reminds me of the old saying, "if I tell you I'll have to kill you".

Mah-see-ah has learned an important lesson this summer. What you say in real life and on Pogo can absolutely come back to bite you in the butt. It's a small world and things get around. Hell, someone messaged her on MySpace about my thread over at Kashtin's and she deleted her MySpace page.

These days, nothing is sacred. Period. I have very, very, very few people online I trust. Even then, I always hold a lot back. Never put all your cards on the table. However, there are three posters in this circle of people I would trust with just about anything about me. I'm pretty sure they know who they are.

[Doofy]

IMO if you've found three you should consider yourself dam lucky.

[lakelady]

I think that if it is written anyplace it can come back to bite you in the ass. It is a small world, and you never know who is lurking. And I think it has been demonstrated here and other places that you never really know what people are capable of. I don't mean here now, but there have been some really horrible things done to people in the past with private inflormation blasted all over the internet.

Cynical? Yes, but there is no way I would post personal stuff. Email might be a different story, but I'm still pretty careful. This isn't a slam at anyone I post with, just a general rule.

[krisinluck]

Doofy - is that what you were saying between the lines? That you wear dresses?

I must need a new box of Clairol Light Amber...my blonde roots missed that completely! And then you go and spill it yourself? Cheated! I've been cheated!

LMAO

It's a fine line. I'm pretty cynical myself, and I hold a lot close to the vest, both online and off. The flip side is this: how do you get to know someone, become friends with someone, if you never share who you are?

Still, anything you write on the 'net can indeed come back and bite you in the ass. I've not had it happen like Doofy's examples, but I did have someone local find my blog years ago. Bitch tried to get me fired! My boss laughed when I went to the computer and pulled up the piece she was having a shit fit about. Her boyfriend went to jail. He was our cook. I did not name him, or the restaurant, because I'm not a twit. My boss said "cool, keep doing it like that and no harm done."

I have people online who know more about me than anyone offline does. I'm a misfit in this town (moreso now that I *gasp* left my husband and was seen downtown with a man who bought me dinner!!!!) and the few I considered my friend have fallen away to avoid the stigma. Even the one who went through this herself about eight years ago while I held her hand and never left her wondering where the hell I went.

I've met a few online friends over the years in person. I have one I visit with on the phone at least weekly. Other's less frequently. One of my first internet friends wanted an orange tabby, which I happened to have a litter of kittens with just that in it. I flew to Kentucky, delivered the kitten, spent the weekend with her, and we are still in touch. This was 12 years ago.

I'm hoping that this week I will get to meet my friend who lives in the St. Cloud area, since I have work up that way. Just waiting to be sure which day I'm headed there before I call her and say "HEY! Where are we having lunch?"

[tekobari]

Doesn't matter if it's on line or real life, people gossip. According to a very interesting, long piece I read in Mind magazine, an offshoot of Scientific American, humans are programmed to gossip, as social animals. It keeps us tighter as a group, helps us to determine rank, makes people inside the tribe as opposed to outside it, and so forth. So gossip won't go away. And yes, men gossip just as much as women.

[Doofy]

And yes, men gossip just as much as women.
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I dissagree.

DW comes home with stories about her co-workers husbands all the time. When I called her on it, she asked me if we talked about our wives.

I said at the beginning of the year someone says all women are bitches, and they never put out enough. Everyone agrees, so nothing else need be said. We can then spend the rest of the year talking sports.

For some reason she didn't like that answer.

I've been scared to ask her what she tells her co-workers about me.

[tekobari]

I've been scared to ask her what she tells her co-workers about me.She says you're a saint, which is what I say about my husband. :1hug3:

[krisinluck]

I said at the beginning of the year someone says all women are bitches, and they never put out enough. Everyone agrees, so nothing else need be said. We can then spend the rest of the year talking sports.She may not have liked it, but that's hysterical! LOL!